Unfortunately, this doesn’t serve me too well in therapy.  I can have a great session and later that night not even remember half of what we talked about.  And on the same level, when I’m in session I don’t remember half of what I planned to say.

In an effort to make my time in therapy more useful, I’ve started to write things down.  Not quite journal, but write when I’m upset or just a couple of points I want to make sure that I let my therapist know.  If I’m afraid that I won’t bring up the issue in therapy, sometimes I’ll email them to her before my appointment.

That’s just one way that writing things down helps me in treatment.  Another is with my meal plan.  I know my meal plan backwards and forwards at this point, but one day I decided to pin it to pin it to my bulletin board above my desk.  This probably sounds silly, but it has made such a difference.  I am reminded all day that my meal plan and recovery are important.  When I’m in the middle of work I think “oh, I’ll eat that later” or “I am too busy right now,” but just having it written out and sitting in front of me helps me remember that treatment is important even when I’m not in my therapist’s office.

A third way is with affirmations.  Well, affirmations may not be the word that I’m looking for… but clips of little things that mean something to me.  For instance, also on my bulletin board is a fortune from a fortune cookie that says “Remember there are people who care deeply about you.”  I also have this paper on which my therapist wrote, “You can let go of your ED and still be validated” and “Never forget, but forgive and make yourself a better person.”  And then, sometimes I’ll print out pieces of funny or significant emails (from anyone in my life) and pin those up.  Yes, I have a very large bulletin board!

I need a written reminder for several reasons:

1. I’m a visual person
2. I twist things and second-guess myself and think “she didn’t mean it that way” or “I am reading into that too much.”
3. Being continually reminded helps me convince myself that it is true

Different types of therapy are helpful for different people, and I think that there is some trial-and-error involved in figuring out what works for you.  Personally, I highly recommend investing in a bulletin board.