There was a post on Lifehack the other day called, “3 Reasons Why Shame is Your Friend.”  I saw that headline and of course HAD to read it. It turns out it’s the third in a series, after “Why Fear is Your Friend”  and “Why Sadness is Your Friend.” How many times have we talked about these things in therapy… as negative influences?
Personally, they’re all pretty interconnected for me. I’m all about avoiding everything (seriously), and a lot of that is probably fear-based. I’m afraid of screwing …

This evening I was reading Carrie’s post on overcoming core traits.  Personally, her post was very timely, having just finished reading the book, “When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough.”  That is NOT a book that I would normally pick up (I feel pretty well-versed in perfectionism), but my therapist handed it to me.  In hindsight, maybe I could have NOT read it and argued that I was challenging my perfectionism by not doing my therapy homework.  Oh well, next time…
Anyway, the book made a lot of good points, and I could …