The “enough factor”
If you don’t know already, I’ll tell you now: you were born good enough. It’s only your thinking, beliefs and fear that get in the way. Naturally, we all have strengths, weaknesses and flaws but the underlying question we seem to want answered is not really, ‘am I good enough to do A, B or...
Not sold on shame
There was a post on Lifehack the other day called, “3 Reasons Why Shame is Your Friend.” I saw that headline and of course HAD to read it. It turns out it’s the third in a series, after “Why Fear is Your Friend” and “Why Sadness is Your Friend.” How many times have we talked...
Anxiety is a good thing
It was really weird for me to look at anxiety as some positive indicator of change rather than some big red "stop! uncomfortableness ahead!" sign. If I were waiting for recovery to be comfortable, it was never going to happen. Challenging the eating disorder was never going to feel good (at least not while...
A toxic relationship
I've heard that "the eating disorder is like a bad boyfriend." I guess that in this context, referring to the eating disorder as "Ed" makes a lot of sense. The boyfriend analogy aside, the eating disorder does fall under the category of "toxic relationship." Just look at how relevant the 10 steps are...
I'm kind of a big deal
I don’t know how to tell you this, but I’m kind of a big deal. People know me. I have several leather bound books. And my apartment spells like rich mahogony. I’m friends with Merle Olsen. He comes over on occasion. - Ron Burgunday, Anchorman There have been a number of posts lately about eating...
Size sometimes matters
Laura Collins raised a GREAT question today — Does (mom’s) size matter? While I have a lot to say about the matter, two main points come to mind: 1. Mothers with eating disorders I think that your mother’s weight and behaviors surrounding food are much more relevant in recovery than in the downward eating disorder...
Remission in is (and Recovered is so last season)
There has been a lot of talk about remission in eating disorders lately, and I couldn’t be happier to hear about it. I have long believed that EDs are chronic and that even though it’s probably possible to reach a point of 98% recovery, there’s no hitting 100%. There is no recoverED. While this probably...
It's not just genetics
One of these days, I will start a “Grey’s take on the Maudsley Method” series. Not because I think that it’s wrong or right, but just because I think it’s really interesting and have a lot to say about it. In the meantime though, I want to highlight a quote from Laura Collins’ article, “The...
Social eating disorders
She who orders the smallest salad ‘wins’ I found Rachel’s post to be very interesting — and largely true to my experience. In face, we often decide on the restaurant based on what we’re getting. Sometimes we get salads, other time’s it’s pizza… sometimes it’s just a drink and dessert. But usually it’s almost the...
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