Comments on: When in a hole… http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/ "being aware of your crap and actually overcoming your crap are two very different things." - christina, grey's anatomy Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:26:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Robin Schafer http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-1491 Robin Schafer Wed, 01 Dec 2010 22:34:31 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-1491 The best way I get out of feeling bad and in a hole, is to write down what I have to be thankful for. I also pat myself on the back, when i accomplish something, no matter how small. It puts one in a positive frame of mind. When you are positive anything is possible. Robin The best way I get out of feeling bad and in a hole, is to write down what I have to be thankful for. I also pat myself on the back, when i accomplish something, no matter how small. It puts one in a positive frame of mind. When you are positive anything is possible. Robin

]]> By: Teresa http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-1348 Teresa Sun, 22 Aug 2010 18:28:54 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-1348 I know that thinking. It is so much more comfortable in the hole. For the most part, I know what it is like in here. The world outside the hole, I don't know so well. I am so guilty of all the excuses used for not getting out of the hole. I have gotten out before. Looking at the list, maybe with some other forms of illness. I know that thinking. It is so much more comfortable in the hole. For the most part, I know what it is like in here. The world outside the hole, I don’t know so well. I am so guilty of all the excuses used for not getting out of the hole. I have gotten out before. Looking at the list, maybe with some other forms of illness.

]]> By: Steve http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-1121 Steve Sun, 25 Apr 2010 11:01:24 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-1121 <b>PTC</b> - I understand that! I see those two statements as different ideas, almost: 1. "I can just stay in the hole because it's easier and fine" = I'm in the hole, I know, I just don't have the energy/motivation/something to do something about it right now. 2. "I'm not that bad, so I'm fine where I am" = I'm not actually in a hole -- so why am I trying to climb out? I'm very guilty of the second. I'd get into semantics, like... "So define <i>hole</i>. How deep does it have to be to qualify as a hole? I am just in a <i>ditch</i>, which is totally different from a <i>hole</i>." You get the point :-) I'm not endorsing this... just sympathizing. PTC – I understand that! I see those two statements as different ideas, almost:

1. “I can just stay in the hole because it’s easier and fine” = I’m in the hole, I know, I just don’t have the energy/motivation/something to do something about it right now.
2. “I’m not that bad, so I’m fine where I am” = I’m not actually in a hole — so why am I trying to climb out?

I’m very guilty of the second. I’d get into semantics, like… “So define hole. How deep does it have to be to qualify as a hole? I am just in a ditch, which is totally different from a hole.” You get the point :-)

I’m not endorsing this… just sympathizing.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-1097 Sarah Wed, 21 Apr 2010 11:04:52 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-1097 Wow. This was really... enlightening. I never realized I was guilty of, well, ALL of these things. It is so easy to find reasons not to recover. And those seem to work SO freaking well. *groans* Well, you just burst MY bubble. I've realized I MIGHT just be wrong. :-) Now its just the whole - what other way IS there to look at things? I'm glad I browsed onto your blog. Wow. This was really… enlightening. I never realized I was guilty of, well, ALL of these things. It is so easy to find reasons not to recover. And those seem to work SO freaking well. *groans*
Well, you just burst MY bubble. I’ve realized I MIGHT just be wrong. :-)
Now its just the whole – what other way IS there to look at things?
I’m glad I browsed onto your blog.

]]> By: Olivier BROUN http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-1037 Olivier BROUN Tue, 06 Apr 2010 09:32:58 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-1037 Great post. I think nearly the same with any addiction. If I got out my addictions, it was not by attacking them dirrectly, but by going "arround them" and this is what you explain with great word. (excuse me for my bad english). Olivier BROUN, France. Great post. I think nearly the same with any addiction. If I got out my addictions, it was not by attacking them dirrectly, but by going “arround them” and this is what you explain with great word. (excuse me for my bad english). Olivier BROUN, France.

]]> By: Matt C http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-971 Matt C Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:47:33 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-971 What a great post - and discussion!! funny how a good metaphor can make sense of such a complex set of ideas! I think BLs comment said a lot - about having been in the hole for so long that staying down there can seem far less scary than getting out of the hole. Isnt a big barrier the fact that an ED can feel like who and what we are? Like its part of our identity? Letting go of things can always feel scary especially if we identify ourselves with it I guess. So I think thats when we need help to find healthier ways to replace what the ED was fulfilling for us (as opposed to the risk of simply swapping for another symptom as originally highlighted) I like this site!! Matt C What a great post – and discussion!!
funny how a good metaphor can make sense of such a complex set of ideas!

I think BLs comment said a lot – about having been in the hole for so long that staying down there can seem far less scary than getting out of the hole.

Isnt a big barrier the fact that an ED can feel like who and what we are? Like its part of our identity? Letting go of things can always feel scary especially if we identify ourselves with it I guess.

So I think thats when we need help to find healthier ways to replace what the ED was fulfilling for us (as opposed to the risk of simply swapping for another symptom as originally highlighted)

I like this site!!

Matt C

]]> By: PTC http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-950 PTC Sat, 30 Jan 2010 12:58:39 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-950 Yeah, I'm actually just in a ditch and it's not that bad, which is why I don't really need to climb out. I hear what you're saying, GT. Yeah, I’m actually just in a ditch and it’s not that bad, which is why I don’t really need to climb out. I hear what you’re saying, GT.

]]> By: BL http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-948 BL Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:18:05 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-948 I am definitely guilty of both of these. I also think sometimes the expression "the devil you know is better then the devil you don't" comes into play here. Even if you know you are in the hole, you have been in the hole for so long that it is more comfortable then trying to find your way out. I am definitely guilty of both of these. I also think sometimes the expression “the devil you know is better then the devil you don’t” comes into play here. Even if you know you are in the hole, you have been in the hole for so long that it is more comfortable then trying to find your way out.

]]> By: Laura http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-947 Laura Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:48:51 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-947 Yeah, ditto actually.... Yeah, ditto actually….

]]> By: greythinking http://www.greythinking.com/2010/01/27/youre-in-the-hole-stop-digging/comment-page-1/#comment-945 greythinking Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:45:03 +0000 http://www.greythinking.com/?p=563#comment-945 <b>PTC</b> - I understand that! I see those two statements as different ideas, almost: 1. "I can just stay in the hole because it's easier and fine" = I'm in the hole, I know, I just don't have the energy/motivation/something to do something about it right now. 2. "I'm not that bad, so I'm fine where I am" = I'm not actually in a hole -- so why am I trying to climb out? I'm very guilty of the second. I'd get into semantics, like... "So define <i>hole</i>. How deep does it have to be to qualify as a hole? I am just in a <i>ditch</i>, which is totally different from a <i>hole</i>." You get the point :-) I'm not endorsing this... just sympathizing. PTC – I understand that! I see those two statements as different ideas, almost:

1. “I can just stay in the hole because it’s easier and fine” = I’m in the hole, I know, I just don’t have the energy/motivation/something to do something about it right now.
2. “I’m not that bad, so I’m fine where I am” = I’m not actually in a hole — so why am I trying to climb out?

I’m very guilty of the second. I’d get into semantics, like… “So define hole. How deep does it have to be to qualify as a hole? I am just in a ditch, which is totally different from a hole.” You get the point :-)

I’m not endorsing this… just sympathizing.

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