Comments on: What if your child were ill? http://www.greythinking.com/2009/06/07/what-if-your-child-were-ill/ "being aware of your crap and actually overcoming your crap are two very different things." - christina, grey's anatomy Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:26:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Caron Kasey http://www.greythinking.com/2009/06/07/what-if-your-child-were-ill/comment-page-1/#comment-2528 Caron Kasey Thu, 06 Oct 2011 03:14:35 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=326#comment-2528 I stumbled onto this site and I am so glad that I did. My daughter was in traditional treatment for Anorexia for years. It wasn't until I pushed the professionals to the side and used my motherly instincts, took her to a neutral place and we put together a plan, which parallels the Family-Based Treatment. She is in Recovery for the longest by far period in years. She is 25 with a college education and lots of scars from the eating disorder. I write at http://AnorexiaTreatmentExposed.com Facebook: Caron Kasey Facebook public link: http://www.facebook/pages/FoodIsMedicine Twitter: @AnorexiaExposed Thank you!!!!!!! I stumbled onto this site and I am so glad that I did.

My daughter was in traditional treatment for Anorexia for years.

It wasn’t until I pushed the professionals to the side and used my motherly instincts, took her to a neutral place and we put together a plan, which parallels the Family-Based Treatment.

She is in Recovery for the longest by far period in years. She is 25 with a college education and lots of scars from the eating disorder.

I write at http://AnorexiaTreatmentExposed.com
Facebook: Caron Kasey
Facebook public link: http://www.facebook/pages/FoodIsMedicine
Twitter: @AnorexiaExposed

Thank you!!!!!!!

]]> By: kyoungpsyd http://www.greythinking.com/2009/06/07/what-if-your-child-were-ill/comment-page-1/#comment-498 kyoungpsyd Tue, 09 Jun 2009 19:50:33 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=326#comment-498 What synchronicity! I stumbled upon your blog in my musings about the very same article and the differing opinions in response! I really appreciate your perspective, it is helping me continue to think through my reactions and the response I am in the midst of crafting for my Blog. I too was concerned about the depiction of clients' stories of their past lives as not believable. That has not been my experience, but rather, like you say, that many people go to great lengths to blame themselves and justify the behavior of their loved ones. Thank you for this post. I am glad I found it when I did. What synchronicity! I stumbled upon your blog in my musings about the very same article and the differing opinions in response!

I really appreciate your perspective, it is helping me continue to think through my reactions and the response I am in the midst of crafting for my Blog.

I too was concerned about the depiction of clients’ stories of their past lives as not believable. That has not been my experience, but rather, like you say, that many people go to great lengths to blame themselves and justify the behavior of their loved ones.

Thank you for this post. I am glad I found it when I did.

]]> By: chylo http://www.greythinking.com/2009/06/07/what-if-your-child-were-ill/comment-page-1/#comment-497 chylo Mon, 08 Jun 2009 01:27:10 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=326#comment-497 I've thought a lot about maudsley stuff lately too. Like you, I know my family never would have gone for this sort of treatment. In fact, they were in deep enough denial to argue against doctors,teachers & camp counselors for years. When I was wanting treatment, my mother told me not to believe that I was crazy, tried to assure me I was fine etc. I really do not think there was any malice-- they wanted me to be well, badly enough to fail to see the problem. I think maudsley has some great ideas & has brought about a wealth of research. I hate the parent blogs/comments that refuse to understand that not all patients could have this therapy, that some patients *do* benefit from individual/traditional therapy. I think it's occassionally useful to reference my past, because it sometimes helps to understand my present tense patterns & problems. I don't think it would be useful to focus on that exclusively though, and the therapist I've seen for six years has helped me a lot with focus on my current values/goals, cbt, etc. I think maudsley has helped me think about the ed as external, and appreciate the importance of nutrition. I'm a science geek, so I like seeing these things laid out in studies. it's reassuring! and like you, I feel like I've used my treatment team to take on that sorta refeeding job. I joke that I outsource my food & exercise decision making. It's true though. I'd like to see traditional therapy/residential centers try to adapt some of the most successful aspects of maudsley & incorporate them. I kinda freak out when I read comments from parents etc saying not to trust what a sick person is saying etc-- dehumanizing much?! I know (now) when I stop making sense, and even then, I never make up stories about my childhood/twist family relationships. when I'm food deprived, I come up with all sorts of absurd justifications & I shut people out. I don't stop being a person though, and I wanted to strangle some of those mothers! I’ve thought a lot about maudsley stuff lately too. Like you, I know my family never would have gone for this sort of treatment. In fact, they were in deep enough denial to argue against doctors,teachers & camp counselors for years. When I was wanting treatment, my mother told me not to believe that I was crazy, tried to assure me I was fine etc.

I really do not think there was any malice– they wanted me to be well, badly enough to fail to see the problem.

I think maudsley has some great ideas & has brought about a wealth of research. I hate the parent blogs/comments that refuse to understand that not all patients could have this therapy, that some patients *do* benefit from individual/traditional therapy.

I think it’s occassionally useful to reference my past, because it sometimes helps to understand my present tense patterns & problems. I don’t think it would be useful to focus on that exclusively though, and the therapist I’ve seen for six years has helped me a lot with focus on my current values/goals, cbt, etc.

I think maudsley has helped me think about the ed as external, and appreciate the importance of nutrition. I’m a science geek, so I like seeing these things laid out in studies. it’s reassuring!

and like you, I feel like I’ve used my treatment team to take on that sorta refeeding job. I joke that I outsource my food & exercise decision making. It’s true though.

I’d like to see traditional therapy/residential centers try to adapt some of the most successful aspects of maudsley & incorporate them.

I kinda freak out when I read comments from parents etc saying not to trust what a sick person is saying etc– dehumanizing much?! I know (now) when I stop making sense, and even then, I never make up stories about my childhood/twist family relationships. when I’m food deprived, I come up with all sorts of absurd justifications & I shut people out. I don’t stop being a person though, and I wanted to strangle some of those mothers!

]]> By: greythinking http://www.greythinking.com/2009/06/07/what-if-your-child-were-ill/comment-page-1/#comment-500 greythinking Sun, 07 Jun 2009 23:28:47 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=326#comment-500 <b>Jane</b> - Thanks :-) That's a valuable point that FBT is a type of therapy. I guess I've always looked at FBT as <i>incorporating</i> therapy, but it makes sense that it is in fact its own kind. Jane – Thanks :-) That’s a valuable point that FBT is a type of therapy. I guess I’ve always looked at FBT as incorporating therapy, but it makes sense that it is in fact its own kind.

]]> By: Jane http://www.greythinking.com/2009/06/07/what-if-your-child-were-ill/comment-page-1/#comment-499 Jane Sun, 07 Jun 2009 23:10:09 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=326#comment-499 I agree with you that there's a lot going on in FBTeven in the earliest stage. Sometimes it's talked about as if it were simple "refeeding" but non-critical supoprt and externalizing the illness are important psychological factors even in the nutritional restoration phase. And of course in the later two parts of treatment revolve around managing independently and dealing with any issues that get in the way of healthy adolescent development. FBT isn't a rejection of therapy, but a TYPE of therapy. If you ever have a daughter with AN I'm sure you'd do a great job helping her recover (but I truly hope you never find yourself in that situation!) I agree with you that there’s a lot going on in FBTeven in the earliest stage. Sometimes it’s talked about as if it were simple “refeeding” but non-critical supoprt and externalizing the illness are important psychological factors even in the nutritional restoration phase. And of course in the later two parts of treatment revolve around managing independently and dealing with any issues that get in the way of healthy adolescent development. FBT isn’t a rejection of therapy, but a TYPE of therapy.

If you ever have a daughter with AN I’m sure you’d do a great job helping her recover (but I truly hope you never find yourself in that situation!)

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