Comments on: Just say NO

By: eshoe

eshoe — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 23:26:34 +0000

Ha ha ha – I wrote something similar for my post tomorrow (I usually write t the night before I post). It gets under my skin like NOTHING!!!!

Nice post,

By: BL

BL — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 20:37:39 +0000

I am also totally against New Years Resolutions, and I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that they really remind me of the all or nothing thinking that I am working so hard to combat. I often get into all or nothing thinking with eating, thinking “well, I already ate a ton today so I might as well just keep eating, and then try to eat nothing tomorrow” or “I already bped today, so I will just keep eating today and restrict tomorrow to compensate.” While sometimes the idea of a new day is encouraging, usually it is just an excuse for me to keep screwing up the current day. But it never works that way – I might be able to restrict for a few hours the next day, but then I decide to eat and the cycle starts all over again. And to me, that is how New Years Resolutions sound – I am going to wake up on Jan 1st and somehow everything will be different and I will be able to completely change. I agree with you that the better approach is to try to aim for a more moderate set of long and short term goals, and not beat yourself up over setbacks.

By: greythinking

greythinking — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:56:17 +0000

Thanks, Kristina. I think I miss that about semesters in school… you have two new beginnings and endings a year (and a break between!). Because there is a finite date, you have something to work towards. A deadline, almost. That is an unfortunate thing about my job (although I love my job)… there are no real beginnings / endings. Just one week after another (which is maybe why I like weekly goals?)
Thanks for reading!

By: Kristina

Kristina — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:33:23 +0000

Just stumbled on your blog and really like it!
I have to admit that one of the reasons that I like the pace of my work year is that I have a different “beginning” and “ending” than the Jan-Dec calendar year. So, it affords me the opportunity to have different beginnings and ends and to set different goals for myself, but they are definitely goals rather than a resolution to radically change myself in an illogical way.
- Kristina

By: greythinking

greythinking — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 15:36:57 +0000

Thanks! I think that evaluating your progress toward goals is so much more rewarding than the pass/fail of resolutions. Happy New Year to you, too

By: imaginenamaste

imaginenamaste — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 15:24:56 +0000

I love your blog! I’ve always looked at New Year’s resolutions as smaller goals instead of longer-term things. A former therapist had me set goals for the year instead of resolutions so I could see where I had met goals and such–instead of a resolution to, for example, “don’t restrict all year,” it was “go out to a dinner with friends” or something like that
Happy New Year!