Comments on: Tis the Season for Comparing http://www.greythinking.com/2008/12/02/tis-the-season-for-comparing/ "being aware of your crap and actually overcoming your crap are two very different things." - christina, grey's anatomy Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:26:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: shiyokl http://www.greythinking.com/2008/12/02/tis-the-season-for-comparing/comment-page-1/#comment-232 shiyokl Wed, 03 Dec 2008 18:25:09 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=167#comment-232 I love your final statement! "I may possibly be my biggest trigger." Sometimes, when I do surveys on ED for others, there are a lot of questions that imply that it's societal pressure that keeps the ED going. But as you mentioned, self comparison was really the source of my body image issues than any comparisons with other people as the ED manifested into another form. I love your final statement! “I may possibly be my biggest trigger.” Sometimes, when I do surveys on ED for others, there are a lot of questions that imply that it’s societal pressure that keeps the ED going. But as you mentioned, self comparison was really the source of my body image issues than any comparisons with other people as the ED manifested into another form.

]]> By: Lola Snow http://www.greythinking.com/2008/12/02/tis-the-season-for-comparing/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Lola Snow Wed, 03 Dec 2008 08:19:32 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=167#comment-231 Definitely identify with this too! I always used to be looking back and comparing when that really doesn't help. Like trying to fix things in the past in order to make ourselves happier in the present might need doing in order to move on, but often we should actually be doing vice versa. I think the happier (note the word happier and not more successful/thinner/richer) that you are in the present, the easier it is to look back more fondly and with less regret. If I think back on a day when I am smiling and laughing in the present, then my mistakes in my history, are humorous stories and important learning exercises, and my successes are a reflection of the person I have become. If i am looking back from a place of sadness, then I see a past littered with things i should have done better, or more successful versions of myself. Peace in the present aids peace in the past. Definitely identify with this too! I always used to be looking back and comparing when that really doesn’t help. Like trying to fix things in the past in order to make ourselves happier in the present might need doing in order to move on, but often we should actually be doing vice versa.

I think the happier (note the word happier and not more successful/thinner/richer) that you are in the present, the easier it is to look back more fondly and with less regret. If I think back on a day when I am smiling and laughing in the present, then my mistakes in my history, are humorous stories and important learning exercises, and my successes are a reflection of the person I have become. If i am looking back from a place of sadness, then I see a past littered with things i should have done better, or more successful versions of myself. Peace in the present aids peace in the past.

]]> By: Tiptoe http://www.greythinking.com/2008/12/02/tis-the-season-for-comparing/comment-page-1/#comment-230 Tiptoe Wed, 03 Dec 2008 02:32:26 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=167#comment-230 Raise my hand to this one! Although I find the whole reflection process worst at New Year, I definitely compare my present self to my former self. It's not so much the physical characteristics but the emotional. Then, I had uber self confidence and was fearless, life was just all before me, and I was headed in all the right directions. I'm still trying to find some concept of that even knowing that it will never be the same, just different. Raise my hand to this one! Although I find the whole reflection process worst at New Year, I definitely compare my present self to my former self. It’s not so much the physical characteristics but the emotional. Then, I had uber self confidence and was fearless, life was just all before me, and I was headed in all the right directions. I’m still trying to find some concept of that even knowing that it will never be the same, just different.

]]> By: Carrie http://www.greythinking.com/2008/12/02/tis-the-season-for-comparing/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Carrie Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:25:06 +0000 http://greythinking.wordpress.com/?p=167#comment-229 Oh, I hear you on this one! I compare myself a lot with who I was, or who I might have been, or who I should be. But really, without the hell of an ED, I might not have been on the path I am today. Then there's the physical comparison, which also sucks. At least I never had a family Christmas photo though... Oh, I hear you on this one! I compare myself a lot with who I was, or who I might have been, or who I should be. But really, without the hell of an ED, I might not have been on the path I am today. Then there’s the physical comparison, which also sucks.

At least I never had a family Christmas photo though…

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